No we are not the first family nor will we be the last family to have child behavior problems. Way back when, they would put you to work on the farm or spank your behind with a belt or stick. Who knows if that really worked. 99% of spanking is done out of ANGER and losing your TEMPER! The kids ticked you off and got your blood boiling so now they are going to get it. You may have felt better (which I bet you didn't) but that didn't help your child. What did they learn?
Sorry to say, but if kids aren't taught WHY what they did was wrong, they are going to do it again. It's pre wired in their brain! It's got to be. In order to stop child behavior problems, you need to give them consequences that fit the crime.
Spanking really doesn't make sense to me (I was spanked plenty in my day)but if it's used to warn the kids for example that running out into the road is sassy and dangerous, then maybe.
I'd show them pictures of traffic accidents first personally or take them to hospital or local cerebral palsy center, where there might be a young child there that was hit by a car. Do I want them to be scared? Hell yes! I want them to be so scared that they will never run into the road again. Just my opinion!
Have we ever spanked our kids? Sure, but it didn't work! We've used time-outs, reward charts, naughty chair, discipline charts, special treats and they all work until the kids get bored with them. I've got a great tool that I stumbled upon that has worked great! I actually use this childbehaviorproblems.info and the 1-2-3 Magic book. My husband said they weren't going to work but guess what? I love it when I'm right. The key to these is for the parents to follow through. Now that's the hardest part, because that means you actually have to do something. You can't be lazy! (My husband's middle name sometimes) Just follow through and they will work!
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